Getting Married Due to Misunderstanding
19. The definition of not yet fought has been rejected
...People who fall in love sometimes like strange behavior....
...-alisha...
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After finishing the race, Mr. Shivan invited me to tour several areas of Ankara. I came to mind with Azura's words the other day before I left for Turkey.
"Al, usually the calm is dangerous. Take care of yourself."
"I'm not sure that Mr. Shivan has no crush on you. From his gait it's very obvious, if he likes you. Believe it or not, it's up to you." Somehow I suspect Mr. Shivan's recent behavior is different than usual. We stopped at a shopping mall in Ankara, Turkey. I'm interested in trying out baklava. It just so happened that my stomach was empty from noon. I deliberately passed lunch so that later I could eat as much. Yeah, even though I'm the type of person who breathes, weight can go up a mile.
The seller is very friendly. Most Turkish youth have a good face. I am sure that when they come to Indonesia, they will definitely be appointed as an actor. The definition of a satayman in Turkey alone is more saucy than his face Hanzal.
Mr. Shivan also tried tasting baklava. I ate while squatting by lowering my right leg slightly down. "Bismillah" I said. I saw Mr. Shivan so enjoying baklava and some other typical Turkish food. Mr. Shivan's life was not as serious as teaching.
"Is there any Indian ancestry?" my question is very random after spending three pieces of baklava. I am really hungry.
"I? Nonexistent. Why?" he said even ask back.
"It's just the same thing." My answer.
"Shivan's name doesn't mean it has to be Indian, does it?" said. I just nodded while chewing some other typical Turkish food that I did not know his name. After paying for the food I ate earlier, I also bought another Turkish food that lasted more than three days. Not only that we both also bought antiques such as bracelets, key chains, items made of glass, prayer beads and some pashmina hijab I bought. Women are like that, when you see a good item said funny, then bought.
I have heard the lecture of one of the ustad, he said, if you enter the shopping area please read a prayer. The goal is not to be negligent with the pleasure of something sold and to avoid other vices. Even I still remember one hadith about the bad of the market, the Prophet Muhammad once said: "The place that Allah likes the most is his mosques, while the place that Allah hates the most is his markets." (HR.Muslims, Ahmad, and Judges)
In another hadith it is also explained, "Verily the market is the battleground of Satan, or the dwelling place of Satan, and there satan sets up his flag." (CHR. Thabrani). It is actually okay for us to shop into traditional and modern markets, as long as it does not take hours. Especially when I forget prayer time. That is not the good thing that the sabada meant. The point is that the market is a lot of harm.
Sorry if I said that I was too offensive to some people. Talking about religion by people who are poor in faith does feel silly, right? But some say, don't look at who is talking, but listen to what is being said. Yes but still, sometimes many people will choose to listen to the conversation who the person is. Do not misinterpret.
I still remember something that I read one of the hadiths, Abu Bakr bin As-Sina, Musaddad bin Ya'qub Al-Falusi told us, my father told us, Ibrahim bin Sulaiman told us, Ibrahim told us, Muhammad bin Aban told us, 'Alqamah told us from the mother of Buraidah from her father (Buraidah) r.a.he said:
When the Prophet went to the market, he prayed:
بِسْمِ اللَّهِ ، اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ خَيْرَ هَذِهِ السُّوقِ وَخَيْرَ مَا فِيهَا ، وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّهَا وَشَرِّ مَا فِيهَا ، اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ أَنْ أُصِيبَ فِيهَا يَمِينًا فَاجِرَةً ، أَوْ صَفْقَةً خَاسِرَةً
Meaning: In the name of God. O God, I ask You for the good of this market and the good that is in it. I take refuge in You from all the evils of this market and the evils that are in it. I take refuge in You from perjury and from the loss-making business there."
This is how he prayed, though,
لاَ إِلَهَ إِلاَّ اللهُ وَحْدَهُ لاَ شَرِيْكَ لَهُ، لَهُ المُلْكُ وَلَهُ الْحَمْدُ يُحْيِيْ وَيُمِيْتُ وَهُوَ حَيٌّ لاَ يَمُوْتُ، بِيَدِهِ الْخَيْرُ، وَهُوَ عَلَى كُلِّ شَيْءٍ
Meaning: There is no God but Allah alone, no ally to Him, His all praise, He Who Turns On and The Deadly. He is All-Living, He will never die, and all good is in His hands, and He is All-Powerful over everything.
Sometimes I forget to read that prayer. When we are done, we leave the place to try other Turkish food. As well as Mr. Shivan, he also bought some hands.
"Your name is Adnan, right? but you're not an Arab." Said again.
"That's the name of my ancestor's grandfather, sir. But my ancestral grandfather is also still descended from Arabs." I clearly. Mr. Shivan nodded in understanding. Then we stopped at one of the restaurants near the shopping mall. This restaurant serves Turkish food. Looks like eating three pieces of baklava can not be said to eat, right? I'm also a typical Indonesian once, if I haven't eaten rice, that means I haven't eaten. Mr. Shivan ordered food. I ask for help to get ordered. I bought some baklava cardboard, Turkish sweets and Turkish chocolate. I already look like a new shopping merchant who will be sold tomorrow.
I ordered Turkish tea, Adana Kebab Khas Turki, Imam Bayldi or made from eggplant base. If a Turkish restaurant does not provide processed eggplant, it means it is not a Turkish restaurant. After Mr. Shivan ordered the food, he immediately sat back in front of me.
"Alisha, can I have something?" ask Mr. Shivan suddenly.
"Please, it doesn't have anything to do with my life." I clearly. The man nodded in agreement.
"You're a Muslim, aren't you?" suddenly tanyanya. I nodded in agreement, was he also going to ask about why I did not hijab.
"If I'm alone, it's better not to continue. Because after all, I have to commit to my religion."
"If I already knew that he had a different belief, I should back off. It is better to be hurt and disappointed at the beginning, than to be too deep in love that the pain will be extraordinary. Not only that, my family will definitely be vehemently opposed." I clearly.
"That's in my opinion, sir. But there are some people who certainly disagree with my opinion. Because they might base it with something called love. But they forget, if God has a prohibition his servant to marry a non-believer."
"And I choose to stand firm for my religion. If God says no, no. Even if it hurts. Sami'na wa atho'na, we heard and we obeyed. Maybe those three words could explain what you're asking." Obviously I'm pretty sure. Mr. Shivan's face immediately changed.
"Even if you love that person?" ask again. I nodded confidently.
"His love is not eternal. If we love someone not because of God, then we will forget the creator. Not only that, when we choose someone we love, humans can leave us because of boredom or loss of love. But when we are steadfast in choosing our religion, and choosing to part with that person, then God is always with us, whatever the circumstances." I clearly.
"It's not that easy, Alisha." Said evasive. I smiled knot.
"What you said is very true. Action is not as easy as what we are talking about. I say this, because I have never fallen in love with different beliefs. But I will defend my principles even if they are very difficult."
"Different faiths alone are very difficult to unite, let alone different beliefs." I clearly. I'm trying to pick up a story from sayyidatina Zainab.
"Like Sayyidatina Zainab bint Muhammad SAW, daughter of the Prophet. He married a non-Muslim man named Amr bin Ash. At that time God had not revealed a verse about the prohibition of marrying different religions. They love each other. But when Allah sent down the Qur'an to the Messenger of Allah, Zaynab and Amr the son of Ash were separated."
"The Prophet was very gentle in heart, but on religious matters, he was very firm in every inch of religious rule. Zainab chose to put religion first rather than her strong love for her husband. At that moment Sayyidatina Zainab cried, having to part with her much loved husband. We can imagine having to part with our loved ones, and that is her husband. But that is Islamic law. If Sayyidatina Zainab continues to marry for different religions, then her marriage is counted as adultery."
"After that?" tanyanya was very curious. I hesitated to continue the story. Is Mr Shivan non-Muslim?
"I'm sorry, are you non-Muslim?" I was quite doubtful. He nodded his head.
"Sorry sir, I don't know if you're a non-Muslim."
"It's okay, Alisha. Continue the story, I want to hear the story."
"Some time later it was a long time from the separation of Zainab and Amr bin Ash, there was a great war called the battle of Badr. Victory was won by the Muslims, and Amr bin Ash was taken prisoner by the Muslims because he was one of the troops of the polytheists. The news came to Zainab, and Zainab asked one of the Muslims to redeem Amr ibn Ash with his necklace, giving his mother Sayyidatina Khadijah."
"Then the Prophet saw the necklace, and he was moved to know who it belonged to. Then the Prophet asked his friend to release Amr ibn Ash for ransom from his daughter." Then a waitress approached us and placed our order on the table we were tagged.
"Thank you" I said to the waiter.
"Amr bin Ash was moved by Zainab's actions. Amr bin Ash was finally released. Some time later, Amr returned to his army, saying he would renounce his religion by handing over all his possessions to the polytheists. But many things make it difficult for Amr to leave his religion. Because many parties disagree with the actions taken by Amr." My next. Mr. Shivan ate the order right away. I also drank Turkish tea first to moisten my dry esophagus.
"It was only then that Amr was able to convert to Islam and return to Zainab. Then they were happy ending. But leaving religion because love is so hard. From Amr bin Ash alone many sacrifices. Especially if you leave the Father's religion, which person is not necessarily the Father's wife." Obviously I finished my conversation. Mr. Shivan was immediately choked by his own drink. He immediately drank mineral water.
"It's hard to be bnget, it turns out," he said.
"That is the law of Islam. God is not making it difficult for his servants with rules. God only wants his servant to be able to discern where the prohibitions and orders are. Then God can see his servant, who is obedient and who is a dissident." I clearly. Mr. Shivan nodded in agreement. I said basmalah and ate the order that I had left.
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...To be continued ...
...Alisha fashion obedient...
...Alisha if you are obedient, looks like God is not really?...
...But if for example incomplete you can read more on google a lot of kok, the story of religious differences between Zainab bint Muhammad and Amr bin Ash. The story makes memek. Never had a love of different religions. ...
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